It’s February, and you know what that means…Punxsutawney Phil! Unfortunately, the little critter saw his shadow, so we’ll be getting a longer winter…but then again, Sand Mountain Sam, the weather-predicting possum (who knew?!), called forth an early spring.
Oh, not what you were expecting?
Oh yeah…February is all about LOVE, that pesky Valentine’s Day holiday. As a person who’s been married for almost 30 years, it’s easy for me to shrug my shoulders about it all and be happy if he remembers with flowers, chocolates, or simply a kiss. It’s also easy because I am lucky enough to have a hubby who shows me love every day of the year, not only on one assigned day.
If you don’t have that and it’s something you pine for, the Hallmark hallmark can be a triggering reminder. But I’m here to tell you, you always have someone just waiting to love you…someone who wants nothing more than to be accepted and loved unconditionally in return. And that’s YOU.
I can feel you rolling your eyes at me, and I get it. It’s not the same. And the whole ‘self-love’ thing is like a broken record that at first sounded great, but after a while, its crackling repeat gets downright annoying.
After all, it’s nothing we don’t know. It’s just that much of the time, it’s easier said than done. And that’s not your fault. Remember, we are conditioned to think negatively, so we constantly try to sabotage that gooey self-love feeling because it’s too damn happy. It feels like hope, and that’s a dangerous thing. If we have hope and that hope is dashed—we start to believe the lies that we are NOT lovable—well, that feels worse than never believing it at all.
My Valentine to you is to suggest some concrete tips you can try that just might make that elusive self-love a little easier. Because, after all, you’ve gotta know how to love yourself if you successfully want to love another. I know, another tired old record, but…it’s true.